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“The Cool Girl” doesn’t get needy in a relationship.

But where does that leave us?!

He pulls away and, suddenly, it doesn’t matter that you’re a total badass and completely self-sufficient in the workplace... you turn into a “Please don’t leave...

Do you find yourself losing yourself in a relationship? Sacrificing your needs and who you are to please your partner?

Are you growing steadily less confident and more frustrated in your relationship… and you just can’t help yourself?

It’s so easy to do this. Like SO easy. And...

“I love you” is one of the most romantic things to say to someone you love. But the truth is, and we’re sure you’ve heard this before, love isn’t just a word, it’s an action. It’s what we do.

Here’s the thing: Communication can “show”...

Resentment in relationships: it’s not just for unhappy couples that are bitter and unsuited for each other.

It’s fair game for ALL of us at times. Givers, Lovers, Nurturers, Heroes — where you at?

You know the feeling you get when you’re giving so much to your relationship...

Can we agree on this? After a fight, it’s nice to get a little reassurance that “we’re going to be okay.” After an emotionally revealing conversation, it’s good to be reminded that he loves you no matter what. When he’s acting withdrawn for some weird reason,...

Being in a relationship is my favorite thing in the world! Dating? Not so much.

Some dates are good, plenty are awkward, some are bad, but the worst — I mean the WORST — is when you have a great date and then…

CRICKETS.

He never calls or texts you back.

Without MarsVenus gender...

Everything is fine until she drops the line: “I need you to open up and tell me how you feel.”

Noooooo!!! Everything crawls into slow motion as you realize what she’s asked of you. You do a lingering blink hoping to get saved by the bell or text or natural disaster.

But there...

If you’ve ever wondered:

• “Why am I single when I’m such a catch?!”
• “Why can’t I ever seem to take my attractions and connections to the next level?”
• “How are my charm, good looks, and sense of humor not enough to land me my dream girl? I see the...

When he doesn’t open up and share, it feels like you’re trying to create intimacy with a brick wall.

It feels like you’re in a one-sided relationship.

Why is he so repressed?!!!

Whether you’re in a relationship and frustrated that your connection is suffering because...

Giving space in a relationship: It feels dangerous. Threatening even.

When you start to feel distance between you - whether it’s cool indifference, physically pulling away, not answering your calls, or full-on irritation - all instincts drive you to bridge the gap immediately.

You have to...

Initiating sex in a relationship: Who’s job is it?

In the movies, they make it look so natural, like both partners always want sex at the same time and it just sort of happens in a flurry of passion. But what if your sex life is not like that at all?

What if you’re in a dry spell and...

You sense something is wrong, but he won’t tell you about it.

You encourage him to share his feelings, but all you get is radio silence. He’s such a Cave Man!

You’re starting to question everything you’ve ever done or said to him: Is it me? Have I done something wrong? Is...

Why do men never help out?

It seems the easiest way to show someone you care, right? Jump in and offer help, support, an extra hand…

You would do it for him so why doesn’t he do it for you?

There’s actually a very simple answer to this and it has nothing to do with how much he...

When we’re in a relationship, we feel responsible for each other and take on each other's pain. That’s empathy, right?

Their bad day becomes your bad day, their upset upsets you and so on. That’s what love is, right?

Or is it? The pattern I just described is actually what I call...

Mr. Cool. He “says” he’s not ready for a relationship, but he’s all over you! Flirty, sweet, kind, attentive, thoughtful, boyfriendy, charming…

And then, silent, cold, indifferent.

What is up with this guy? And why do men do this?

In this episode and blog, I’m...

Fighting in relationships can get out of hand so easily.

You just want to communicate about an issue, a challenge, open up and share but very quickly, you can trigger a man’s anger and he can transform from your loving partner into a mean and competitive person.

And if you push, he might...

Dating is exhausting, and I’m sick of it! Are you there yet? Are you even wondering, “Do soulmates exist?” at this point?

They do, by the way. And in this post, I’m going to show you how you can get your hands on one!

You’ll learn who your soulmate is, how to...

The passion was electric in the beginning! You couldn’t keep your hands off each other. It was so easy and natural.

But now it’s gone (or at least fizzling).

And as cool as you are on the outside, inside, you’re desperate for someone to tell you how the heck to bring that back.

Well, the worst happened. They broke up with you. This is about as painful and confusing as it gets.

I mean, is it really the end or can you reconcile?

I believe this is a beautiful opportunity for greater love and relationship success if you handle it right, and I’m going to prove it to...

Every relationship has ups and downs. But if you can learn how to open your heart and let love in, even when it's hard, your ups will be higher and your downs not so steep.

To be totally fair though: sometimes opening your heart to your partner feels like the most impossible task in the world.

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So, are you the spender or the saver? Money and relationships may be one of the biggest tests for married and long-term couples because usually there’s one of each!

In this area, we confront our differences head-on. We all have values around money: how to spend it, save it, allocate it and...

The ultimate betrayal. A knife to the heart. He cheated on me.

Can the relationship be saved? Can you ever trust him again? What is a relationship without trust?

Great questions. While your world is falling apart around you, let me shine a light on some answers. In this episode, I’ll share...

It’s easy to not talk about your feelings in a relationship. It’s easy to swallow your voice and let the issues brew.

It’s easy until it feels so hard you’re crying on the phone with your mother just bursting with things to say!

But where does that leave your relationship?...

Are you in a no label relationship? You know, having fun, getting close, keeping it casual and cool without “putting a label on it?”

It’s easy and undemanding until you run into a problem.

What if they don’t call you back? What if they start hanging out with someone else?...