MV Quick Tip: When Are You “Good Enough” for Love?

If you want to be the best possible version of yourself for your relationships, today’s MarsVenus Quick Tip is for you.

In love, little things make a big difference. In the day to day of your relationship(s), it can feel overwhelming to address all the problems or create all your dreams at once. That's why we love to bring you these quick tips. Something accessible you can try on and experiment with. It might be new, it might be a helpful reminder, and it might be totally counterintuitive. We invite you to play along.

There are so many benefits to self-improvement work. Reading all the books, taking all the courses, and exploring what you need to change in order to really “nail it” in love is valuable. But, believe it or not, sometimes that behavior can actually interfere with your love life!

In this post, you’ll learn how to approach personal development so you truly win in love.

Often, as a result of unsatisfactory relationships, many people today are obsessed with changing themselves.

They might Google all the things, read all the books, take all the programs, hoping that when they change, their lives and relationships will instantly improve.

But creating more love in your life has nothing to do with changing who you are. 

As a matter of fact, that just gets in the way.

The more you try to modify your behavior to act as you think you “should” act, the less you will be yourself and the harder it will be for you and others to love you.

Think about it: If you’re coming from a place of self-rejection, you can never attract love because like attracts like.

If you want to manifest more of anything in your life, you have to come from a place of abundance in that area; a place of “I have what I need.”

So when you want more love, in order to attract it, you must come from a place of “I have the love I need” and really feel that in your heart.

There is nothing wrong with wanting to change except when it prevents you from being who you really are.

Because if you’re not being who you really are, you may succeed in convincing others that you are worthy of their love, but deep down inside, you will never feel truly loved and accepted for just being you.

When change is motivated by self-rejection, it can never really create more love. 

You may...

• Become more powerful
• Get a better job
• Make new friends

But you’re not going to love yourself more if you are treating yourself as if you are not good enough and need to change.

You do NOT need to change yourself to attract a partner to create your dream relationship. 

There’s nothing wrong with you.

You are already good enough and worthy of love and acceptance.

What needs to change is your approach.

For example, you may need new levels of awareness about what makes you happy or new communication skills.

That is the personal development work that will help you create your Soul Mate relationship.

But your first step is going to be accepting yourself and loving yourself as you are.

Once you are coming from a place of true self-acceptance and love, you can then do things that you love to do.

When you do things that you love to do, you are being authentically you and loving yourself.

That will boost your feelings of joy, love, and abundance and attract more love into your life.

Change and growth are a healthy part of life, but we need to remember that who we are today is already good enough and worthy of love and acceptance.

Remember, thriving in love doesn’t have to be complicated. Just keep learning and taking small steps because you deserve a great relationship!

Grow in love,