If you’re struggling to find and create a loving relationship…
Or you’re feeling lost, unsure, or bored in the relationship you’re in now, today’s MarsVenus Quick Tip is for you.
In love, little things make a big difference. In the day-to-day of your relationship(s), it can feel overwhelming to address all the problems or create all your dreams at once. That’s why we love to bring you these quick tips. Something accessible you can try on and experiment with. It might be new, it might be a helpful reminder, and it might be totally counterintuitive. We invite you to play along.
Everyone craves intimate, romantic relationships because we all want to feel that magical, loving feeling. But sometimes you just DON’T feel it, and when that happens, you may wonder “What’s wrong with me, or my relationship, or my partner that I don’t ‘feel it’?”
In this post, you’ll learn how you can turn up the dial and instantly feel more loved (and loving).
When men and women fail in relationships, it is not because they are not loving.
The truth is we are all born with love in our hearts and a purpose to fulfill.
But when we do not know how to share our love in ways that work, we experience pain in our relationships.
Sometimes love is not expressed because it is buried deep inside, locked within the fortress of our hearts. Hiding behind a wall, we are safe from hurt but barred from love.
So many people are imprisoned in themselves. They do not know how to find their love so that they can share it. Endless opportunities to love are wasted in a lifetime when we are not taught the basic skills for communicating and relating in a loving manner.
So we are never missing love, we are simply missing relationship skills.
The love is always there. Even when it doesn’t feel like it.
We often assume that because we feel one way, it means something about us or our relationship. But that’s not necessarily true.
Feelings aren’t facts.
So just because you don’t always “feel” love, doesn’t mean it isn’t there.
It just means you don’t know how to access it and express it… yet.
You can start accessing more love by first identifying what beliefs may be holding you back.
Because the fortress of our hearts that holds us back from love is made up of beliefs.
We call these “limiting beliefs” because they limit the amount of love we allow ourselves to experience, such as:
“I’m not good enough for love.”
“My partner doesn’t really love me, or they would/wouldn’t _________.”
So what we need in order to access love isn’t to continue seeking new love, new partners, or trying to change ourselves into someone new!
What we need to do is:
- Remember that love is always there
- Flip those limiting beliefs into curious inquiries
- Take action with new tools and skills from that space
- “I’m not good enough for love.”
If you chose to believe that you are good enough for love, even when you don’t “feel it,” what could change?
- “My relationship isn’t good enough.”
If you chose to believe that your relationship is good enough, even when you don’t “feel it,” what could change?
- “My partner doesn’t really love me, or they would/wouldn’t _________.”
If you chose to believe that your partner loves you, no matter what, even when you don’t “feel it,” what could change?
We teach so many specific, actionable and invaluable relationship skills here at MarsVenus.
Take These Posts Here for Example:
- When a Man Needs Space: What to Say When You Need Time Alone
- Boundaries in Relationships are Key to Intimacy
- Get a Man to Open Up and Connect in 4 Simple Steps
- 6 Steps to Stop an Argument
But when you hold these limiting beliefs it can keep you from benefiting from those new skills. It can even keep you from taking action on them because you just don’t think they could work for you, your partner, or your relationship.
That’s why this insight that “love is always there” is so important. This is where you must begin, and from here, you can grow in love — and the sky’s the limit.
Remember, thriving in love doesn’t have to be complicated. Just keep learning and taking small steps because you deserve a great relationship!
Grow in love,