Hi, I'm John Gray

Author of Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus. I’ve been speaking, teaching and coaching all over the world for 40 years. And I’m proud to bring you the best resources for health and relationships here at MarsVenus.com.


John Gray is the author of the most well-known and trusted relationship book of all time, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus. USA Today listed his book as one of the top 10 most influential books of the last quarter century. In hardcover, it was the #1 best selling book of the 1990s. Dr. Gray’s books are translated into approximately 45 languages in more than 100 countries and continues to be a bestseller.

Dr. Gray has written over 20 books. His most recent book is Beyond Mars and Venus: new relationship skills for our complex modern world. His Mars/Venus book series has forever changed the way men and women view their relationships.

John helps men and women better understand and respect their differences in both personal and professional relationships. His approach combines specific communication techniques with healthy, nutritional choices that create the brain and body chemistry for lasting health, happiness and romance.

His many books, blogs and free online workshops at MarsVenus.com provide practical insights to improve relationships at all stages of life and love. An advocate of health and optimal brain function, he also provides natural solutions for overcoming depression, anxiety and stress to support increased energy, libido, hormonal balance and better sleep.

He has appeared repeatedly on Oprah, as well as on The Dr. Oz Show, TODAY, CBS This Morning, Good Morning America, and others. He has been profiled in Time, Forbes, USA Today, and People. He was also the subject of a three hour special hosted by Barbara Walters.

John Gray lives in Northern California, where for 34 years he happily shared his life with his beautiful wife, Bonnie, until her passing in 2018. They have three grown daughters and four grandchildren. He is an avid follower of his own health and relationship advice.



I’m still amazed today at the relevance of my big hit Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, that was over 25 years ago! Crazy. But being someone who reads ALL the time and is always doing research, whether it’s scientific studies or counseling clients, I’ve also discovered that together as a society we’re going beyond Mars and Venus!

Relationships between men and women have changed dramatically in recent years. We are no longer limited by the traditional roles of hunter/gatherer or breadwinner/homemaker. These are role mate relationships where people play out their role in order to create harmony.

In contrast, the soulmate relationship provides the unique emotional support to fully express our authentic self which includes both our masculine and feminine qualities.

Social and economic shifts have caused the sexes to no longer be dependent on each other. Now, having more equality in relationships is a beautiful thing, but the problem is people have equated equality with sameness. The truth is, even though our roles have shifted there are still fundamental differences between men and women.

These differences are reflected in our biology: our hormones and brain chemistry. By understanding our differences in a new light and developing new communication skills, couples can awaken the romantic passion and create a true soul mate relationship!

Soul mate relationships are where both partners understand and respect their differences so they can expand empathy and deeply support each other throughout life.


I’m here to help men and women create strong, passionate bonds that last a lifetime. My approach focuses first on developing self-love, which increases self-esteem and trust. Once this is established, understanding and respecting the differences between you and your partner becomes easier, communication flows, and intimacy flourishes.

My approach combines specific communication techniques with healthy, nutritional choices that create the brain and body chemistry for lasting health, happiness, and romance.

Everyone has the power to create fulfilling, passionate, dynamic relationships if they’re willing to show up and do the inner work.

Here at MarsVenus.com I’ve teamed up with my amazing daughter Lauren so that you can have both the male and female, older and younger, married and single points of view on life and love.


  • Understand the opposite sex
    Relate with empathy and clarity.
  • Improve communication
    Goodbye, bickering. Hello, feeling heard.
  • Date with confidence
    Discover the love you deserve!
  • Find your soulmate
    Attract the right kind of relationships into your life.
  • Feel totally fulfilled in your relationship
    Express your full self and grow in love!

Sign up for our free course: How to Get Everything You Want In Relationships and start learning these new relationship and communication tools today!


My daughter Lauren and I are deeply committed to helping you attract, create and nurture the love that is your birthright.

Through videos, blogs, books, online courses, and groundbreaking live events, you’ll learn down to earth practical insight and wisdom that will change your life forever.

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Grow in love,