“I love you” is one of the most romantic things to say to someone you love. But the truth is, and we’re sure you’ve heard this before, love isn’t just a word, it’s an action. It’s what we do.
Here’s the thing: Communication can “show” your partner you love them rather than just “tell” them. Using certain phrases can be a true ACT of love.
In this post, we’re giving you the 10 most romantic things to say to someone you love that show how much you care.
The goal in any relationship is to balance feeling comfortable with feeling the passion you crave! This is a simple phrase that embraces that balance. The great news is: You’re already thinking it! You just need to say it out loud. We can all feel a little self-conscious at times, even getting out of the shower near the person we love, so give your partner a boost and a little reassurance and say:
“I LOVE IT WHEN YOU’RE NAKED.”
Appreciate your partner. Even for the mundane little things. Show them you do not take them for granted. Remember what life was like without them and let them know you see how they add to your life. For example:
“THANKS FOR WIPING DOWN THE COUNTERS. THEY’RE SO CLEAN AND NICE.”
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Women: Ask your partner for what would please you. Rather than wait until he fails to read your mind, or anticipate your need, be clear and direct about what he could do that would contribute to your world and make your life easier, better, and/or more enjoyable. For example:
“WOULD YOU DO THESE DISHES FOR ME? I LOVE COOKING WITHOUT A MESS, IT FEELS LIKE I’M ON THE FOOD NETWORK!”
Men: When she asks you to do something, don’t just say “Yes.” Give it some real flare and it will be a gift she treasures.
“SURE. I’D LOVE TO DO THAT FOR YOU!”
Despite some common misunderstandings around what a relationship is and some natural inclinations to feel needy, the truth is: Our partner isn’t here to save us from our lives. They’re here to back us up and give us the loving support to go out in the world and do what we came here to do! When you say this to your partner, you give them wings.
“I BELIEVE IN YOU.”
We’re in such a hurry all the time. Slow down. Make eye contact. Smile and say, “Tell me more” like you’ve got all the time in the world. And as a bonus, when women hear this and open up to share their day/opinion/experience/perspective/feelings in a way a man can really listen, it raises their female de-stressing hormones (hello estrogen!).
“TELL ME MORE.”
It’s far too easy for our love to manifest as controlling. We just want to help and support our partner to be the best they can be! But often our most loving action is to let go and trust them. It’s that trust that inspires them to be the best they can be.
“I TRUST YOU TO MAKE THE BEST DECISION.”
Unsolicited advice can sometimes be taken as criticism or distrust. So it’s important to be aware of this when volunteering to help. At the same time, the joy of being in a relationship is that you have a partner, an extra set of hands, someone to lean on when you need it. To express this in a loving way, be casual and simply make yourself available. It implies: Hey, I’m here. You’re not alone if you don’t want to be.
“LET ME KNOW IF I CAN HELP.”
“I LOVE SPENDING TIME WITH YOU.”
As meaningful as it is to acknowledge our partner’s successful moments with appreciation, it’s equally important to address your partner’s mistakes with care. These “mistake” moments are opportunities to grow in love, rather than grow apart. When your partner makes a mistake, the best thing you can do to show your love for them is to smile and say:
“THAT’S OKAY. NO BIG DEAL.”
This may seem really odd to include here but we couldn’t send you on your way without it. Taking me-time is often the most loving action you can take in your relationship. If you’re not caring for yourself — giving yourself the support you need to recharge — then you can’t give your best to your partner, nor can you bring out the best in them.
Without this loving phrase, it’s easy for your partner to take your impatience, detachment, irritation, dissatisfaction, or ambivalence personally and think you don’t love them anymore. By using this phrase when you need space, you ensure they know you love them and you’re taking loving action to bring the best you to the relationship.
“I NEED SOME SPACE TODAY. IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU. I’LL LET YOU KNOW WHEN I’M READY TO RECONNECT.”
These 10 phrases are simple and powerful romantic things to say to someone you love that truly show how much you care. With these acts of love, we know you will thrive in your relationship.
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