MV Quick Tip: How to Weather Relationship Ups and Downs

If you’re wondering how to easily come back to love when things feel challenging in your relationship, you’ll love today’s MarsVenus Quick Tip!

In love, little things make a big difference. In the day-to-day of your relationship, it can feel overwhelming to address all the problems or create all your dreams at once. That's why we love to bring you these quick tips. Something accessible you can try on and experiment with. It might be new, it might be a helpful reminder, and it might be totally counterintuitive. We invite you to play along.

In order to experience more love from your partner, we find this simple approach works wonders:

To be successful in our relationships, we must accept and understand the different seasons of love.

In the post below, you'll learn how.


A relationship is not a stationary object that remains the same all the time.

It’s more of a living thing or an ecosystem — like a garden.

And just like a garden may thrive in certain seasons and less so in others, relationships have similar cycles.

Think about it: A gardener approaches their plants with different needs in different seasons.

Plants may be watered daily, but special care must be given according to the season as well as any unpredictable weather. New seeds must be sown and weeds pulled.

Similarly, to keep the magic of love alive, we have to understand its seasons and nurture love’s special needs.

We should look at our relationships with respect to its seasons, cycles, and the special care it needs throughout unexpected shifts in “weather” if we are to experience the love we truly want.

First, we must accept the different seasons of love.

What is this really about? It’s about shifting your expectations.

Sometimes love flows easily and automatically; at other times, it requires effort. Sometimes our hearts are full, and at other times we feel empty. We can’t expect our partners always to be loving or even to remember how to be loving.

Sometimes our partners will let us down — and that’s okay. We need to honor their season, the “weather,” and what they can give and do at different times in life.

But it’s not just our expectations of them we’ll need to shift. It’s just as important that we are compassionate and understanding with ourselves through life’s ebbs and flows.

We must give ourselves the gift of understanding and not expect to remember everything we have learned about being loving.

Secondly, we must understand the different seasons of love.

As we grow in love and get to know our partners better and better, we learn more and more about how to care for one other and the relationship. That’s the garden. As we tend to this garden, we’ll learn more about each plant (yourself, your partner, and your relationship) through seasonal and climate shifts — be that outside pressures or challenges, new adventures or dreams, or starting and raising a family to name a few.

It’s important to remember that we are always learning so we can become better and grow in love, but we are never “finished.”

The process of learning requires not only hearing and applying but also forgetting and then remembering again.

Our advice is to keep it simple and come back to the basics when you’re in a challenging season or having a “rainy” relationship day.

The next time you’re frustrated with the opposite sex, remember that Men Are from Mars and Women Are from Venus.

Even if you don’t remember anything else, remembering that we’re supposed to be different can help you instantly be more loving. By gradually releasing your judgments and blame and persistently asking for what you want, you can create the loving relationships you need and deserve.

Remember, thriving in love doesn’t have to be complicated. Just keep learning and taking small steps because you deserve a great relationship!

Grow in love,